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Monday, November 22, 2010

As Sand Falls

As Sand Falls from the Hour Glass
I watch, half in awe- half in boredom
The end is incomprehensible,
But the time?.... it feels running short.
Sometimes the frame is frozen-
The Sand is corked.
But when it starts to fall again,
It leaves an empty feeling.
The glass may be half full,
But it can easily be felt as half empty,
Can it not be both
At the Same Time?
Can I know that the sand falls -
but one grain at a time,
and I learn something at the drop
of Each Grain?
Not one is wasted,
I have none to regret.
But everyone else's sand turns
Into the engulfing waters...
Mine keeps going-
it has yet to change for ever.
I wait to catch the right wave,
Waiting. . . still. . .
But i suppose there is some good
in proving the Patience of the Impatient
in being the Believer, the Optimist,
the Strong One, against the Mirage.
Nobility is commendable,
it feels Sensational in the day-
but in the Night that feeling of somewhat dolefulness
Creeps, Seeking to be repressed.
Training the mind to see only the good-
the Prevalence of optimism in my voice
Deep down i know is the art of Persuasion.
But whatever it takes to keep the happiness,
Reminding the crowd --
That there are enough stars in the sky...
Somehow, that is reassuring enough for me <3

Monday, November 15, 2010

There is a Someone for Everyone

H e a d O v e r H e e l s
LoVe aT FiRsT SiGhT
You Had Me At Hello
you're beautiful
et. cetera...............................................................


out of all of the things in the world, i believe that there is one person for everyone. 

i do not believe it is "situational" ..... whatever that means.

and i don't believe in things being temporary.... if you are meant to be together- you will be together.

you know what they say.......... l o v e f i n d s a w a y

sometimes that love needs time to grow- sometimes you try to make a shoe fit when you know it doesn't.

sometimes you think there isn't anyone left to be with.... everyone is used, broken, or not for you- but out of 6 billion... or more... people in the world, i am telling you right now there is the perfect man out there for you.

if you are not H e a d O v e r H e e l s in love with someone 99% of the time- you shouldn't be with them.

if you find that you are not attracted to the person you are with- it is also time to reevaluate.

if he says "You'll never find anyone like me " "I have things no one else has" "We both know that you letting me go means you losing everything... and we dont want that to happen"
    then your response is:

' THANK GOD! I hope i never find someone like you again!"

if he starts reminding you of all the "nice" "thoughtful" things he has ever done, remind yourself it probably wasnt out of love that he is telling you.....

if he pulls out the "i have always loved you but ive been burned by girls before and i dont want it to happen so i dont want to say i love you first...."

you remember that is is the guy's job as the gentlemen to put a hand over the flame first....

if he doesn't get it-

you can tell him you are SINGLE.   and if he still wont leave you alone- ambush him with paint ball guns. no- i kid.

( unless you want to.... then be my guest :)

i guess this is food for thought..... take it or leave it.... pass it onto a friend mentioning the purple pen pal.....

keep holding out-- the brightest star is yet to shine <3

Friday, November 5, 2010


Because Thanksgiving is quickly approaching- I would be delighted to hear suggestions on what your family traditions are during the holidays, special dishes you cook, etc! Some of them may end up on The Purple Penpal!

Sooo you can email me at:, telling me some of your faves and ill be sure to share some of my family traditions!


Proper Presentation Means so MUCH

people and body weight is a touchy subject- and much effort is done to exploit those who are above the "norm" by offering Wii Fit games that show a frowning Mii if you are overweight, or have not very good coordination (which i can assure you I don't have good coordination all the time! HAHA)
these are the same people who post blogs, opinions in the paper, and create stories for useless rag mags about people that are under the "norm".      I know before this used to fall mainly on teens and adults who felt (many times without reason) their body was not right for what clothes were being shown, or reflecting a comment their idol said on yesterday's MTV [garbage] show. 
Well, the 13 year olds and up are not the only ones who have poor self esteem and body issues planted..... now it is happening to the children young enough to eat.

You may say "Well DUH! That has already been happening for years now. We all know this."  but what you do not realize is that San Francisco is using McDonald's Happy Meals to enforce the "healthy eating agenda"

Let me explain:

According to the LA Times

          "A Happy Meal containing a cheeseburger, small order of french fries, and a Sprite racks up 640 calories"

Obviously, there are ways for McDonalds to fix up their griddle and grease rack loving menu.... adding fruit, water or a light juice, etc. can cut down from 640 calories to somewhere in the 500 range ( i am approximating here)....

i.e.    Helping children make good food choices
rather than
         Helping fight obesity in children

will be much more well received. obviously people cannot tell you what to eat or what to do for your child, but in my opinion, if fruits and veggies are being made more available and chain fast foods like McDonald's - support it!  Of course the ideal is not go there at all- but at least in 2011 you'll be able to go to San Francisco and get some crispy CARROTS and a juicy APPLE.... instead of fries and a double burger all the time. 

Do not let this become something to "fight obesity" ..... okay everyone knows what that word means, and it is not a pretty word to say. "good food choices" makes a much better message.

The focus shouldn't be on body image..... if they want to save money- get rid of the stupid toys all together! and put it towards better quality. 

My stand? yes. take this for what you will. However, i do believe that we have more important things to be doing other than worrying about children's toys... at least improve the quality of that food. 

THAT will be a good choice, for family, and food


Wednesday, November 3, 2010

November 3rd: National Sandwich Day

Sandwiches can be fun!

Sandwiches can be for serious..

 For those of you who did not know, today is National Sandwich Day!

In honor of this interestingly yummy day to celebrate our first "food of convenience," i want to give you some sweet sandwich facts!

Sandwich Facts:

1. The most expensive sandwich in the world is at Berkshire, England- $197 (or 100 euros), this sandwich can only be purchased in all of it's Iberico hammed- white truffled- poulet de Bresset- quail eggs- Italian tomatoed- layered on Sourdough bread- glory from Cliveden's Waldo Resturant in Berkshire. This was destined to be the top 5 star hotel club sandwich.... and boy is it ever!

2. Subway, working through over 16,000 sandwich shops in over 70 countries, uses over 60 million.... yes MILLION pounds of lunchmeat every single year. But is this really alot- considering there are approximately 2 million (2,000,000) different sandwich combos you can make from the menu?

3.Quizno's Large Tuna Melt is possibly one of the most caloric sandwiches - at 1740 calories,  135 grams of fat. A little on sandwich now and then tastes fabulous, but slapping more than a cup of this stuff on your bread, lettuce, tomatoes and pickles is sure to discredit the good of the otherwise healthy meal!

4. Sweden has a sandwich unlike any other....the "Smorgastarta" has over 10 sandwich ingredients, and is eaten like a dessert! Fresh White Bread makes the base, with an creamy egg and mayo to separate the many layers. Shrimp, Ham, Caviar, Olives, Salmon, Eggplant, Swiss Cheese, Cucumber, Salami, Tomatoes, etc. The more "traditional" recipe calls for seafood, however many other ingredients can be used.

and when it is molded to perfection, and topped with some cold shrimp and caviar, it is cut as a cake would be- served with a white wine or beer. It almost looks too pretty to eat!

Sandwiches can be for kids.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

A Friend in Need- is a Friend Wanting to Talk

Today my girlfriend (my friend who is a girl, and yes i am a girl, and no i am not a les.) approached me. She asked me about her boyfriend who is super sweet. He buys her things, he dresses respectably, he is courteous to his family, but- i quote- "[she] doesn't know if [she] really misses him."

So we sat down at a lunch table and ordered some food. I ordered a bowl of wedding soup and breadsticks, with a small Diet Coke. She ordered a Burger with tomato, lettuce, and mayo with Baked Lays on the side- and a Diet Coke also.

"How long have you been dating?"

"almost 6 months"

"Do you think about him alot of the day? Do you wish you were with him when you aren't? Do..."

"Well yeah- not really- i can't be positive. I used to, I just don't know."

" Is it that you spend more time being aggravated by little things and not being able to bring yourself to enjoy the relationship?"

"Not really, I don't get irritated and annoyed too much.... I do sometimes, but I try not to all the time..."

Drinks. After taking quite a large "sip" of my glass, and she of hers, we continued unraveling what she couldn't seem to say...

"What annoys you? Gimme the first thing off the top of your head."

"Indecisive. Always.... back and forth, back and forth. I can't get angry at that- it's who he is. But it is very annoying to be on the waiting end!"

"Yeahhh i bet. Well, I know you said this before, can you still see yourself maybe marrying him?"

"Uh, some days, yeah. Some days, not really. I think I'd spend so much time making decisions for him I would never have time to make any for myself!"

Of course she chuckled when she said that, I picked up on the sarcasm in her voice.

But, alas, another breach of communication driven by--- soup and burgers and breadsticks and Coke refills. 
After breaking from Boy Talk and catching up on the rest of the day and weekend plans, the conversation rolled around to him again...

" At first, I loved talking. I loved it because it was so easy to talk to him. It was never awkward or weird... we could talk for an hour or more! Now, i feel like I have to force myself to call him and talk- but I am busy, and when he doesn't have anything to say, what am I supposed to do? Sit there on the line and listen to him talk to his fish?"

"Well usually people who are crazy in love just like listening to the other person ramble about nothing.... sometimes that isn't true, but you are busy and that makes sense...."

" I mean, I want him to be fun! He is a shy kind of fun, a little spontaneous, but not too much. But I want someone who is outgoing and fun like me! Who would love to have fun at a dance with me, and not stand around waiting to be offered to dance... I mean he is great with my family and i like his.... I just can't see myself marrying him"

"Well perhaps you are slowly answering your own question...."

" I don't even really miss him all the time..... people in love miss each other. I don't miss him like i think i should. "

" Sometimes we have to do what is best for our own judgment, not what the right thing is for someone else's feelings.... not that we have to be rude or pugnacious, but we do have the right to say when we dislike something."

"Yeah, i mean, he is the sweetest, and I think he really does like me alot, I just really feel bad I don't like him back... I think I need to not see him anymore so he can find a girl that will appreciate him in more of a way than in friendship."


Conversation over. 

What do you think?  I left the rest blank, because I want to see what you would say to her. Please address emails with the subject line "Friends"  or comment your response :)

Monday, November 1, 2010

Gummi Bears are from Germany?!

Geez....someone needs to tell me to start opening my eyes up... i had no idea that the first Gummi Bears were seen in Germany during the early 20's.  Gummibärchen  or "little rubber bear" was the first name of the Gummi Bears created by Hans Riegel.
Of course it wasn't til later-much later- like 60 years after (around the early 1980's) that Americans caught onto the gummi wave. This interest was sparked when Riegel made the first American Gummi Bear from his German Candy Shop.

After discovering that a mix of gelatin (did you know gelatin has been used since Pharaoh time in Egypt?) can be used to create different patterns of Gummi Bears with several different flavor and color combinations- Trolli, a second German company, decided to make something called the Brite Crawler- or the Gummi Worm. (which, by the way, is the most purchased Gummi candy in the world) 

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Facebook Relationship Ties Pushing the "Stalking" Evelope A Little Too Far?

Well, i got one of those little facebook profiles in 2007.  it was great; mostly because i was able to stay in contact with the people i went to grade school with... while finding some of my new college friends on there too. i'll tell you what- it was one of those "why couldn't i have thought of that?" moments. HAHA
Of course Facebook has gone through several changes in the following years..... the updated and far less cluttered profiles with wonderful little tabbies to keep Bumper Stickers (bumper what? lol) and Info about you separate from "Places I Have Been" and "Mafia Wars".... to me, i love the tabs. Good organization for what was a discombobulated area. 
Now, we come to another change...... "Relationships"
                                                                             *   *   *

So. Today. i log onto Facebook and see some pics of someone. Clicking their profile led me to see "Mutual Friends" which led me to another's profile. i saw the roomate of the guy write on his wall and i looked directly under the comment and it said:
                                              Comment.       Like.        Relationship.

i was so curious to see what "relationship" meant.... so i clicked on it. What do you think came up?

"__*name of Guy 1*__     and ___*name of Guy 2*____"
Friends on *network name*
Then there were displayed many wall posts between the two, how many photos the two had together, Mutual Friends, Events both attended, and Common Interests.....

This was all displayed at the click of a mouse..... i cannot lie and say it was NOT weird that two people i knew had all of their information displayed linking them to one another posted at once like this. 

Rather, i thought the whole thing was quite odd...... this would be a stalker's dream for sure... but can we be sure that the advantage will outweigh the disadvantage? It somewhat concerns me to think that whatever i have posted on my Facebook ( even though i am well aware that everything posted is already given up to the public) can be attached to one of the people i am friends with. Mutual Friends isn't so bad...i mean, that is how the majority of us find out who to befriend in the first place. 

Most people i am sure have good privacy settings and will not be concerned for the safety of their information. However, if you do not have privacy settings, i would highly advise you to look into these settings on your Facebook. 

*Account *
and then check or fix the settings to what you believe is appropriate. 

Just wanted to fill you in on what is going on, and what is coming......


Friday, October 29, 2010

Blackout in a Can

I want to be the first to show you such an adorable family photo:

                                                             Charge- Joose-Sparks
pretty much the small time evolution of energy infused alcoholic beverages common and cheap today. the newest addition to the family not pictured yet? Four Loko.

Three Ohio State Alums made the drink with the usuals: Alcohol, Caffeine, and a good flavor to keep people drinking.  But what makes this Four Loko so incredible? The alcohol content is over 3 beers' worth.

Four Loko combines several strong cups of coffee with a high alcohol content. Why the heck do you need caffeine in an alcoholic drink? Caffeine makes you "dulled" to the effects of the typical drunkenness. So you see? It allows you to drink much much more than you would otherwise- without feeling the effects til later. (more like when you are kneeling in front of the toilet vomiting your poor brains out)

It is said ( i haven't had personal experience with these drinks because of the sometimes hospitalizing consequences) that drinking four Four Lokos will provide the same experience as being high on drugs. Others say it takes three... I would say it depends on how much tolerance you have.

Did you know it becoming outlawed in places like New Jersey? or that the alcohol content has a range in different states? Yes, it's true.Within 6 months of the "Four"s being on local shelves in Ohio, it spread like fire to Illinois, California, and Florida. 

Four Loko has several "nicknames" [if you would call them that].  "Blackout in a Can" and "Legalized Liquid Coke" are just two. Comments associated with the drink are...

"if you're afraid to talk to a girl, drink a four [loko]"

"they are easy to get underage and give the perfect 'buzz'"

" [...] the inexperienced [drinker] should proceed with caution [...]"

Four Loko Caffeinated Booze gets FDA...

Time Magazine's Online Article: "Did Four Loko Send Washington Student to the Hospital?"

I am urging you, please beware what you drink. Do not ever just look at packaging... or think that it won't affect you. Part of being drinking age is having the mature level of thought needed to make good decisions.


Caffeine ....

it's practically snowing outside. it's freezing cold, with a light and airy mist coming from overhead. with the gloom of winter comes the wonderful smell of fresh brewing coffee to give you the little "boost" as a consolation for getting out of bed this morning :)

coffee beans came from arabia....but coffee was apparently being consumed by people in the early 1000

        Like those wonderful people who drank it daily.....
Of course, what we see most about those who are "coffee drinkers" is that they need a cup a day to make them more awake. If they miss that cup of joy in the morning, it may have an effect on the way they are for the day.

But we have to look at not just the wonders of coffee ingestion, but what makes coffee so valuable for those who crave it: this would be, of course, the caffeine.

Some people say coffee makes them sick.... this may be true, but it is also the high amounts of caffeine in the coffee type they drink. For instance, some people think that drinking Decaf has no caffeine at all. Wrong! It has about 4- 7 mg of caffeine.

Regular filtered coffee (not instant) has the most, with  200-250 mg of caffeine.

Health Topics on Caffeine   was the main source for this blog post. I encourage you to read it.

Also, be aware of the upcoming post about Four Loko....for those of you who are familiar with it!


Thursday, October 28, 2010

Do you feel like this when you have to make a decision? You knowwww.... the life changing kinds. I bet you do... because sometimes I feel like that too! 

When you really feel like this is when you are looking for *that* someone.   Boy or Girl, it takes more than good looks to become a part of someone's life.... at least, it should take more than that!   

Anyways, one of my friend's friend's friend's cousin- i think- made this up. But the cool thing is that you get to write down anything you want. No quizzes to give you forced options, no anonymous statuses to say what you should and should not want. Just your opinion. 

At least, it is just your opinion on half of the folded piece of paper.... number lines 1-20 with numbers in order from 1-20. hahah I know that was confusing! 

Then, fold the paper in half so the numbers are on the side you will write on ( which would be the margin side of the paper) and write down the first 20 things that come to your head..... of course, these 20 things have to be things you want in a future spouse... i'm not giving any answers here- because whatever you think up is what is important to you :)

Once you are finished with your 20, give it to someone you trust and that knows you well. Roomate, Friend, Cousin, anyone. And have them write 20 things on the other half of the paper you folded down. 


Chances are, you were truthful about what you want in a spouse.... you didn't just think "Like, OMG!, the guy I want right now has big biceps, so like, i'm going to write down "Muscular" on my list!" or "My last girl friend was a brunette, rude, and a cheater. So i am going to write "Anything but Brunette" on my list."

Well, if you did write that down, keep in mind that those are not qualities; they are physical attributes. 

So, once your trusted person is done and returns the list to you, open it up and see what you have. 

You should hopefully see a number of similar


etc. between yours and your other's list. 

Then , whenever you are looking for someone, see how well they match up to that list there and if they don't- it's moving on time!


Wednesday, October 27, 2010


Black Cats, Ghost Hunters, Piles and Piles of Unchecked Candy.....

Sounding like Halloween right? I think so....

Of all the holidays, alot of people are freaked out by Halloween- the once-holy-holiday, now turned into a fear fest by many.  Goblin-Vampire-Werewolves coming to the same door step (cordially, mind you) to get a Reese's Cup or a pack of Mini M&Ms. Or the new Vampire craze? what about the ones who believe, in their heart of hearts that they are , in fact, vampires by birth. Come on now. Let's try not to be freaks of nature here....

If vampires are around us, and you are desperately searching for your Edward (OMG!) then maybe you should look at the fact :
  • If every vampire bit one person a month ( like they are "supposed to do") and that person then became a vampire also: in 2 and a half to 3 years the whole human race would be one consumed by blood and fangs....and there wouldn't be anyone "normal" or for the vampire fans... "average"...left in the world as we know it. 
 But aside from some people thinking they need a little vampirism to live on Halloween, I think what everyone needs is a little candy.....

Of course this doesnt mean that you have to consume a full bag of pop corn balls plus the caramel apples and rootbeer float that is put in front of you. No of course not! haha  *BUT*  You do have some scrumptious options open to you for the Hallow's Eve celebration......

The 3 Musketeers Mint Bar is a good choice- nougat and creamy chocolate... with MINT! Yummy!

York Peppermint Patties are another good one.... especially frozen!

Twizzler Bites

Bubble Gum


Some Hershey kisses

Dum-Dum lollipops

Candy Corn



Peeps Pumpkins :)

ok im done with my few ramblings of the night!

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Wake up and smell.... the 6 month old McDonald's meal

Everyday we are out and about, something new comes our way. Maybe we subconsciously hear an ad for "the smoking new grilled chicken sandwich" that just happens to be served at a fast food joint not far from the building complex where you work.

Maybe you are just looking for a cheap meal that can keep the hunger bug quiet when you go into another meeting with the council or hit the road for a few hours' drive to deliver a package...

Either way, what we eat is going to have an effect on us.  

McDonald's 6 month Happy Meal was put out by a woman determined to win a bet.    The only difference 6 months  after putting the patty, bun, and fries out on her counter ? They became shriveled. Not a fuzzball of mold, nooooo. Just the simple shrinkage of the size of the food, almost looking as it it was dehydrated.

Of course [probably, i hope] filled with multiple "bad bacteria" by now, why on EARTH should we be eating this food?!

Normal food... this category extending from the organic foods we purchase to the "run of the mill" Giant Eagle or Piggly Wiggly or Food Lion patties.... would develop at least the horrid stench of rotting, decomposing food.
Why, oh why, do we not make the connection that McDonald's food, etc. is not only unhealthy but also unnatural? 
Check out   for the facts about McDonald's. I could go on and on, but the writers of this guide say it much better than I could.

Hoping for a healthier environment <3

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Sometimes I...

Sometimes humanity gets the better of me.

Sometimes I get angry

Sometimes I get caught up in gossip

Sometimes I l a b e l someone as "a little weird" because they might not bE liKe mE.

Sometimes I feel I am not smart enough to be successful in academics

Sometimes I feel too uncomfortable in my skin 

Sometimes I forget to *praise* God for everything He has given me


I smile at my enemies, j.u.s.t to make them more agitated than they were in the first place :)

hehe <3

Thursday, October 7, 2010

A few words about Autumn

Look up to the right
See that colorful sight.
Leaves that are colored
Chilling winds- to make one shutter.

Listen to the words the wind speaks
As the coming of winter it leaks.
Watch it pick up the growing leaves...
Taking them away from their parent - like trees.

Friday, September 24, 2010

Cognitive Psychology Beginner Notes

Cognition: collection of mental processes used in perceiving, learning, memory, and thinking...also, how we use those processes.

Memory: mental processes of acquiring and retaining information for later retrival

Aristotle: was the first empiricist.Natural Science approach to understand on observation.
In De Memoria he made a theory of memory, and considered the basic principles...he imagined the "blank slate". inquiry led him to make objective explanation of how learning and memory take place.

Sperling: said that
fewer items shown = better and more accurate performance.
better iconic visibility w/ sharper contrasts
blank page after stimulus, longer on, less to report.
Visual image of stimulus continues after shorttime after turn off. Utlizing rapidly fading image.
17-18 letters present in intial icon.

The investigation of IPS:
Span of Apprehension- # of ind. items recalled after only short display
Whole Report- only letters
Partial Report- only one of the rows were reported.
T-scope- present array of letters and digits to subjects of brief duration
Fixation- letters ,blank, question
Subject remembers what to recall, and reports from memory.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Painful Pilates For a Sexy Self!

Wanna have Sexy Legs?
How about a nice butt?

These are two realistic videos that are around 10 minutes each! Put on some music, listen to the directions, and do it! There are no weights, mats, yoga balls, etc. involved... it is perfect.

Just food for thought!

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Healthy Food for your Skin

Healthy foods for your skin.....   
How on earth do we go about finding healthy food for our skin?
I will not bother regurgitating the whole blog post from another blog to you... and i wont pretend i know what i am talking about when it comes to nutrition! haha  but i did give you the link so you can see it for yourself, and start living healthier....

But it isnt just living healthier, it is growing in simplicity. Living in such a Pop Tart-Cheese Whiz- Spaghetti in a Box- world is not the way it used to be. Think about "Little House" days.... when the families of the pioneer time used to breed, raise, butcher, cure, and then eat their own food. There was a higher sodium content when it came to curing, but it is no more than what is in one pack of Ramen Noodle Soup i assure you!

They may have had canned foods as well then... but they did not have the preservatives inside those containers.... no way! They stuck to the freshly harvested or the home grown produce and canned using natural jellies like Pectin.... and natural color and taste preservatives like plain old Lemon Juice!  Really!

Go to your local Farmer's Market.... it will probably be just as much to can ( maybe a littleeee more) as to buy cheetos, whole can "grade A" potatoes, and frozen pizzas as it will to make your own sauce, or can your own home grown or locally grown produce!

It is also ten million times healthier, trust me!  Living healthy and simply isnt a scary process, just one we are not used to. I promise the benefits long term outweigh the small cost increase of canning jars and the preparation work. Please consider looking into canning and home preserving even little things- Preserves, for instance. Or maybe making Applesauce instead of buying the Fructose laden versions at the store.

Ball Canning products are perhaps the most widely used brand for canning supplies, and can be found most anywhere.  is a great website that can help with illustrations for canning things. But they also give advice for freezing foods. This is perfect for people who do not have much time on their hands to can, but still want fresh foods in winter! Freezing is less work than canning most items, and is pretty simple too!  

If there is any specific topic you would like links, or discussion on, please email or comment :)

Sometimes People Need to Take Hikes

Some times people need to take hikes.

They need to realize how they don't treat you nicely.

How they choose to be sharp and short and then nice because they need you.

You sometimes feel like you are not up to par with the rest of the world. Sooo you are nominated to be the one that people get snappy with .... because someone "thinks" you have an attitude. Or someone plays favorites unknowingly.

You wouldnt ever admit wouldn't make a very good impression would it? of course not.  

Stay polite, be respectful, but don't linger any longer than you have to.

Friday, September 17, 2010

The Guilty Pleasures of Cool Weather

We all have it.

The desire to whip out the cashmere sweater with the leggings and booties.

Or what about those skinny jeans, with the adorable flats and that slouchy shirt with the statement necklace?

Fall is leading the way for some sweet winter trends. I have some favorites... but expensive ones-- they are!

So i'll post links to the purses, jackets, and shoes i wouldn't mind having in my dream winter wardrobe!

The Burberry in Grey Tote Bag got my attention! As a college student, i always need totes! and this one (although around $650) is fantastic!

Marc Jacobs also has some interesting shoes... beside the flats that are embellished to look like mouse faces, I preferred the Card Playing Flatts  that have a whimsical side, while being very cute and preppy!

Besides the flats? How about this gorgeously elegant version of the Little Black Winter Dress!  The square but higher neckline proves sophisticated, while the sleeveless arms led valuable to the breath-ability.

Chanel has the perfect Signature Earrings with a dainty glass pearl to add to the features of the diamond studded double "C" posts.

Another piece I thought was excellent was the Draped Necklace- complemented with agate pearls and rock crystals.

Of course, There are always bags to match! This Oversized Tote with Interlaced Chains is completely engulfed in a bed of gray/black/ and creme fur!  The "Tweed and Fantasy Fur" Small Tote may be more of a economical venue, however.

Dolce and Gabbana have some beautiful and fun Leopard Print Flats!

They also have Leather Gloves that are in Steel Grey or Dark Brown.  Perfect!


Wednesday, September 15, 2010

A Little about Love

After several attempts on the dating/ courting circuit, I guess you kind of learn what you are looking for and what immediately says, "o-m-g stay away!"
So, hopefully this guide proves helpful if the advice of your "friends" fail.

He should....
  1. Open Doors- Car, Building, anything
  2. Compliment you- Beautiful, Charming, Sweet, Pretty, Nice, Adorable, etc. are good :)
  3. Act like you're his girlfriend!- Put his arm around you, bring you flowers sometimes, and just do things to show that he cares.
  4. PAY- Yes, guys should ALWAYS be the ones to whip out the wallet! Unless it's his birthday, etc. then you may pay :)
He should not...
  1. Let you pay.
  2. Put you down. EVER. Even if he says "jk jk" that's like saying "I'm breaking up with you!" as a joke. not cool.
  3. Disrespect you. If you say you don't like something or are uncomfortable, don't allow him to badger you into it. Make him respect your thoughts, and needs.
  4. Flirt with other girls. Okayyy some girls may let this go. But part of trust in a relationship is KNOWING he won't do anything stupid.
  5. Keep you under lock and key. This is very bad. Girls get possessive, guys say- I'm done. Guys get possessive, girls should not play along.
  6. Ditch you for his friends. Guys should have guy time. But if you find every date is going to Dino's for him to get the wing special, maybe he is looking for more of a friend than a serious relationship. A Boyfriend should take into consideration where you like to go, what you like to eat, etc.

Now that we dealt with how the Boyfriend should act, the next logical step is to discuss the Girlfriend :)
Every girl, even if she doesn't admit it, wants a happy home with a nice guy she loves and who appreciates her and loves her back :)

  • Seem Desperate- ever!!!!- guys looking for a serious relationship don't like seeing things like "Oh em gee! I'm going to die because I'm single!" or facebook statuses that denote something like being broken up, or being mad at someone. You know.... the feel sorry for yourself statuses, etc.
  • Feel the need to wear everything short and tight. It's really like using bad tuna to attract limp and scruffy alley cats.
  • Play hard to get. The only thing you'll end up with is confusion, and real guys get sick of that quick.
  • Let guys push you around. Drunkenness, "Guy's Night", etc. I don't care what time it is, you should always have respect!
  • Lastly, Don't do anything you wouldn't do in front of your parents. Take this as you will, you know what I mean! lol Real guys will respect you in all matters.
It may seem very difficult to deal with them sometimes. Try to cut them some slack sometimes, if they are running late, etc. Guys aren't perfect, but we try to make them as close to perfect as possible. If you feel like your guy takes you away from your friends, feels the need to check all your messages, or always wants "alone time" - it's time to move on.

Honestly, what kind of a relationship revolves around "alone time" all-the-time? Of course you need to have time together to talk about important things, etc. but too much alone time is never a good thing; even for the most prudent of people.

One way to figure out about a guy: facebook! Childish? Maybe. Accurate? Yes. See how he chats with other people, what do his bumper stickers look like, what does his info say, what is he looking for in a relationship??? and PICTURES! If you see things you aren't thrilled with, you can ask him, or maybe he isn't for you afterall. But facebook is definitely one honest way of finding out about someone. (but don't take everything you see to heart)

Another good way to find out about guys: Friends! friends you trust can be a nice way to get to know guys, even if they just become friends. Ask your friends what they think about him; if they are honest, they'll tell you what they really think, and give you a good idea from an "outsider's perspective".

Your parents are also good. Mom's really do know best. If your parents realllyyyyy don't care for your latest boy, it's time to stand back and evaluate. why? can it be worked on? Choosing someone based on looks ad money is not good. People loose money all the time, and saggy skin.... well, that just is part of life!

If not, do save yourself some trouble. If you really aren't crazy about him (or if you are in love with his looks or money), if you know or get the feeling from him that his mind is not where it needs to be- it's time to go. Don't be afraid of breaking up. In my opinion, if you were "together" and you find that you just don't see yourself marrying him, don't waste time. It's not fair to either of you.

Unicorns, Lollipops, and Funnel Cakes <3

You're not gonna reach my telephone-  

Actually, they should reach your telephone! One of the most important parts of a good relationship is C o m m u n i c a t i o n.


is nice, but it should not be the center of your chatting. it's convenient for a quicky question, though.

is also nice, but doesn't really qualify as interaction...

Chat rooms and AIM-
mmm no, poor form of communication right there. unless you want to be like Napoleon Dynamite's brother "[because] things are getting pretty serious, we chat online for 4 hours a day."

Ahhhh yes. fairly modern invention, but also coming out of style in a sense. Hearing someone laugh is much nicer than seeing a little :) & LOL! under an email. sooo, pick up the phone, and CALL. I promise it won't kill you.

Yes!!! Above all, show you care by visiting, talking to the parents, etc. etc. you will never know how much it means to your bf or gf to have their parents say "oh isn't he/she so respectful"

You will also want to communicate when you are out. Don't constantly be on your phone, computer, etc. how annoying to the other person- not to mention, they will wonder who is more important than them.......
Chat over dinner, shopping, etc. the movies are fun, but what solid conversation comes from sitting in a dark room with 3-D glasses on? :)
Now not every convo needs to be life or death, but certainly you should bring things up as they bother you. Don't let everything get under your skin, but if it is something you really dislike, etc. don't wait to talk.

Slushies with Pink Straws,  <3

When a guy says "Your Hot"
......he's looking at your BODY.

When a guy says "Your Pretty"
......he's looking at your FACE.

When a guy says "Your Beautiful"
......he's looking at your HEART.

☂ – Don't let the rain get your hopes down!
☀- Because the sun aLwAyS comes OuT!


Biting, a New Issue to Contend With....  
Of course everyone wants a mystery. Rather than going for the star struck, handsome man with the limo.....we choose the dark, mysterious man with the fangs. Why? It's a freak of cultural norms. duh.
If someone walked around town with extremely pale skin AND fangs AND glowing eyes AND a eerily quiet demeanor-- I think most people would stare and be afraid. However, due to the extreme stretching of "loving our neighbors as ourselves," I believe we have been blocked from the real identity of one of the culture's most odd and creepy characters....
*drum roll* EDWARD CULLEN!
but whatever inside of the teens and young people today that screams for this distinctive character.... is different.
A few years ago, biting was seen as something dogs do who have fleas.
Today, it is seen as one way to show "affection", or so it has been labeled as.
Please read what ABC News has found out regarding the up and coming spreading of "love biting."
What are your thoughts?
Sparks says it All ..... again.
So today I was searching for quotes for my facebook... and i found some of the notebook i thought were impressive. then i started thinking...
doesn't everyone think their love is nicholas sparks' style?

of course they do.

but i wanted to take a moment to point out something. something very important that i am sure you already know. if you dont that's okay too, because it never hurts to learn new things that are good for you :)

"You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter." ~ Nicholas Sparks

remember this, dear friend of mine. i know that you are beautiful, handsome, intelligent, and caring.

but today love is so out of wack that, honestly, every magazine and billboard has some wonderful new and exciting offer on how to improve your life.

did anyone ever tell you that improvement does not have to involve you sleeping together to be happy?

"I finally understood what true love meant that you care for another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be." ~ Nicholas Sparks

i cannot stress the importance of happiness. and i will tell you right now, the happiness of the other person does not consist of sex. just making sure we are all on the same blog entry here.

Many people do not realize, or have not be told the incredible gift they give, or the indelible mark it leaves on the soul when we say we love someone.

"i love you. I've come to understand is more than three words mumbled before bedtime." ~Nicholas Sparks

i challenge you, reader. Friend.

save yourself starting today. if you haven't been doing so all along.

if you fall get back up and keep going.

and see who really deserves your heartfelt "I love you" on your wedding day.

band aids. peace. and prayers.

i've heard stories. i have not judged. i have questioned people, however.
  • you aren't comfortable with something or someone but they don't take no as an answer...
  • eventually you realize napping/cuddling together is what your relationship consists of.....
  • sex is everything. it's the only thing..... 
  • you are constantly bending rules, breaking rules, or telling lies ... 
  • you find yourself feeling guilty because he/she gives you a hard time- all the time...
  •  you feel like you aren't worth 2 cents.....
  • you are cheated on..... 
  • you have to orchestrate everything: he'll pay... but you plan, prep, and and even meet him halfway to get there....
i am truly sorry, but if you think for one second any of these things are okay.... they aren't.
it is so disheartening to think, friend, that you or someone you know feels like this.....
help them if you can, don't ever judge them.....
if this list describes your relationship- i hope you read through the reste (up and down) entries here and see what should be expected of a healthy relationship.
that is important. and discussing your views and opinions openly is even of greater importance :)


Q: My boyfriend lies to me. It was never anything to bad until, like now. I'm afraid when he goes away he is really with other girls and I have know idea what to do. Cmnts? Suggests?

 A: Hi! and I appreciate your question. For those of us who have dealt with situations like this before, I know that it is hard to trust once something like that happens.  If you have evidence, let him know that you are unhappy with what he is doing. Don't try to "trap" him into a lie- but by talking about things I am sure you can straighten it out! If the lying gets persistent or he starts lying about serious things, I would tell him that you are not going to sit back and waste your time figuring out when he is lying and when he isn't. Give him a warning, and if he doesn't listen, break it off. If you aren't worth the truth to him, he isn't worth any more of your time. 
Taking less than you pay for just isn't an option.  

I understand it's hard to be in the midst of people when you have different standards than the rest.  It's never easy to go through a magazine and not be affected by it. So, I have added a piece from my diary to illustrate :

I have been politely told that: 1) I am intimidating to guys because I am outgoing. 2) That I have too high of standards. 3) That I could have a boyfriend if I really wanted to, because i'm the "whole deal" I'm funny, cute, sweet, etc. Well, i am here to let you all know three things which I am not going to tell you politely: 1) If you are intimidated by me, there's the door. 2) If my standards are too high, yours must be too low- or you are desperate. 3) You are completely right. I could have a boyfriend if I wanted to. But I am not the flirt and flight- I am looking for the complete package.

I will make a short disclaimer about myself: 

"Hi! and thank you for wanting to date me. I appreciate your flirtatious attitude and your pretending to care anything about me, but i need to warn you of somethings. I do not offer sex for free or payment-you need to marry me for that.  No you are not allowed to take naps with me- i will send my dogs after you if you try. No, I have not had thousands of boyfriends- but being mine is a rigorous process and contest. Many will enter, Few will attempt, one will win. Thanks for playing the Dating game and good luck!"

I am well aware that the idea of being chaste is a hard enough pill to swallow for most guys... i can admit it is difficult for me sometimes too. But i can assure you that in the end it's far worth it. 

peace, love, and tiffany rings :)

 Friends After Love?  
Q: My Ex and i are still friends and go out with a group sometimes, i told my boyfriend i go out with a group of friends, but i didn't get specific and tell him who was in the group. Should i say something? I mean, he might feel like i've been lying if i don't say anything right?

A:Well, I could see where you are coming from. But think about if he were doing that to you? What kind of response would you give if your boyfriend was hanging out with his ex in a group and not giving you specifics? Although I do not think you need to tell him " hi honey we are going to get dinner, go to a club, come home, watch a movie, and then I'm leaving" I think telling him " I just want you to know that me and ___ still talk sometimes and are friends...."  will cover it. But, your end of the deal is not hanging out every weekend with your ex like you'd hang out with your boyfriend, or a girlfriend. That is when things can get too close to the edge....

When trouble arises...
Not everyone understands how to be the caring person you need at certain times. Please see this list for numbers to call :

Rape, Abuse, Incest-
(800) 656-HOPE

Covenant House Nine-Line

 Runaway children, drugs, abuse, etc.

Child Abuse Hotline

 the Grand Canyon seems like a Fantastic Idea....  

I was walking on the edge of a steep drop off by a trail. I didn't want to fall down, but I was looking over as far as I could to see what was down there. a few rocks tumbled down the drop off... but I didn't think anything of it, because each time I walked this trail - I went a little closer to the edge...

I use this example as so many others have.

I give you a scenario.... because I believe you are smart enough to figure it out and use it later:

You and your boy friend or girl friend are walking along the Grand Canyon. Neither of you want to fall over the edge, but you are holding your girlfriend or boyfriend closer and closer to the wide gap of the Canyon cliff. You do not intend to drop him or her off the cliff, you just want to hold them as close as possible to the edge...the closer you get, the more dangerous it becomes.....what do you do if you accidently slip and fall off the cliff?

What can you relate this to? A few things come to mind, most especially your relationship. The farther you go, the closer you are to the edge! It is up to you to decide your "line" .... the place where you reach that says stop.